I was recently browsing some random discussion thread that for the most part centered on ship losses, dealing with said ship losses, and also the idea of feeling guilt towards the person behind the toon whose ship you just blasted into smithereens.
I have always lived with and championed the mantra that ship losses will always happen, and when they happen, you shrug them off as no big deal.
I see my ship that I have chosen to fly as a consumable, a part of a machine that would not work without this consumable, but nevertheless, an easily replaceable cog in the machine. The consumable is a token that entitles me to at least one unit of game time, or game experience. This one unit could expire after I get snagged 30 seconds into my roam by that insta-locking gate camp I just blindly jumped into, or my unit of play could be a ship that survives 50+ fights. The point being I shouldn't mind or worry too much when or how I use up my token. The tokens are endless. You simply can't ever run out of them and that is exactly how I deal with ship losses.
It's a dangerous path to tread when you get attached to a spaceship. Now, you don't ever want to get into that mindset. In the thread that I was browsing I had to read some of the statements twice just to make sure that I understood exactly what I was actually reading. It turns out that some people really do feel attached to their ships. I thought to myself that if I substitute the word spaceship for beloved family dog or much-loved cat, then it would just as easily fit into the bracket and train of thought of these crazies.
So it's no wonder people get mad when they lose a ship.
Do you treat your ship like a prized pet or a rubber washer?
The Guilt Game.
Mixing in the guilt factor with what I have already said above, it can be perhaps easy to see why some people who feel attached to their ships can feel remorse after shooting someone's ship. Or maybe to think that there's some weird hurting going on behind the keys. I don't want people to ever think that I am hurting because I just lost a frigate or a Loki or whatever. I would be happy for them to know I just enjoyed my experience, win or lose--thankya very much. For most people I would guess that is an alien concept. To me, this is just normal and me being me.
Admittedly, in the very early days of jumping into the PvP circus ring I will say that I did sometimes start to wonder about the person behind the keys. It was a brief flirtation though, and I think you do learn to grow out of this pattern of thought.
Although people do sometimes feel sorry for their victim and will give them ISK and advice after a fight, and I would be lying if I said I have never done this, but, it isn't something that ever plays on my mind, it is through choice. Can this feeling towards your opponent be selective? I do think it can be, yes. Or maybe I am just contradicting myself here? I'd like to think it makes sense what I am trying to explain with this.
The people out there who constantly associate guilt to spaceship loss, haven't learned to evolve and shift their mindset yet.
One time, quite long ago now, where I did get a pang in my stomach after a fight was when I shot up a Drake whilst in a frigate and the dude started begging in local for me to stop, of course I did not stop, and only after he went pop did he go on to tell me how his ship was purchased with the last of his ISK which came from a PLEX that was ultimately a birthday gift of money from his grama. He could of course have been making this all up but he did seem like a genuine sort. Perhaps that feeling was just human nature, I dunno.
Either way, we've arrived full circle back to those who are overly attached to their spaceship, one way or another.
Do you ever feel guilt or are you a cold killer?